“But sometimes what the suicidal person needs is for the therapist to join them in the darkness and show them a way out.”

The Best Way To Save People From Suicide

In my professional life, problem-solving with technology, I almost always start with a set of assumptions and base my initial actions on those. If I’m lucky, I’m right. A rote solution works.

If I’m not lucky, I still win. I learn a new method, or a new perspective, or new patience. My knowledge in some respect will deepen. I have the relative luxury of rebuilding my model of the problem and restarting steps to resolution.

I have finally understood that this same approach in personal relationships is so wrong and so ineffective. It’s best to start with no assumptions. No reactions. And no talking until I get it.

And I suppose here, too, I’ve had the luxury of people tolerant of my quirks.

I thought I knew how to listen, but I see I can do better.

And then I need to ask, is there more I should know?

It’s so simple, and that’s why it’s so hard.

To–in turn–give to others the good feelings you experience when you’re with people who have had a profound effect in your life, you must choose to develop in yourself, and model in your own behavior, those traits you admire.

You must believe you can change.

I’ve been doing a lot of internal work lately, reflecting on things I’d like to change in the way I view my world and respond to it. It stings more than a little to understand the ways I have been holding myself back.

Today, at this McDonald’s, it’s the early 90s. I have heard songs from Snow and Technotronic that I haven’t thought about for a very long time.

Dear Political Attack Ad Makers: You are making me reluctant to cast my vote for any candidate. Or is that your end game?

This morning I am grateful for scrambled eggs, sausage, coffee, and time for personal development.

Made my morning: Driver let me in at a merge. I waved in thanks. Driver waved back in acknowledgement.

Holy Bleepity Bleep! Sometimes it’s not so simple to get a prescription filled… But, it is filled and it will help my daughter and I am thankful for that.

grumble grumble gruble three pharmacies

I’ll be fine

A Declaration of the Independence of Cyberspace has been on my mind a great deal recently.

Listening to The Trip Home

Tim Berners-Lee is still at work on The Web

A little trash talk from a favorite vendor

A funny thing happened. I started reading the print version of Wired 26.10, and I got excited about the future, again.

#Wired25 #MilitantOptimism

“We can’t just complain about how tech is transforming our world; we need to invent the transformation.“ —Jaron Lanier

#AndPrettyMuchAnyoneHopingToMakeADifference #Wired25 #RetroFuturist

“William Gibson is said to have remarked that ‘The future is here, it’s just not evenly distributed.‘“

#Wired25 #RetroFuturist

“Nothing ever quite seems to fulfill its imagined revolutionary potential, and nothing ever quite seems to die.” —David Karpf

#Wired25 #RetroFuturist

Political ads just make me feel alienated. And sad.

Make your own Dot Grid:

Square Dots Graph Paper PDF Generator

So you can make your own templates. /via Reddit

But there’s nothing wrong with feeling differently and believing different things. We can still work together to make this place better. -Nate Boyer

Going to learn about how an iPhone and a Kindle Fire work with an external keyboard.

Embarking today on health changes. I’ve joined a program designed to steer me away from the Type 2 Diabetes that I am at risk of developing.

I’ve signed up for change, which puts me face to face with myself.

It’s hard to look in the mirror.

When you find an accidental selfie in your photo roll

Also: Music makes me cry, now.